Regarding perfect lovers...

i want a lover who looks me in the eye. 

i want a lover who loves my cat. 

i want a lover who doesn’t talk when hiking. 

i want a lover who purposefully goes to therapy. 

i want a lover who wants to melt with me, who wants to feel my fingertips move slowly over their skin, who wants to move their fingertips slowly over mine.

i want a lover who creates, who is a creator. 

i want a lover who has room for the bigness of me in their heart, and isn’t too afraid. 

i want a soft and hard lover. 

i want a lover who is good at things i’m not, like making coffee and singing and camping, remembering to do taxes and birding and making green things grow and other things, too.  

i want a lover who inspires me, who is a little bit or a lot bit magic. 

i want an earnest lover. 

i want a lover who has faith. 

i want a lover who won’t touch me when i sleep, and doesn’t snore or grind their teeth. 

i want a present lover, who takes the time to go and be slow.

i want a lover who likes holding hands in public. 

i want a lover who is glad that i am wed to the earth.

i want a lover who wants to make home with me. 

i want a lover who will tell me when i’ve hurt them, and help me love them better. 

i want a sexy lover, with nice lips and a firm grip, who thinks i’m sexy, too, who loves the way i move. 

i want a lover who drinks alcohol, but not too much. 

i want a lover who loves classic country music. 

i want a story-telling lover. 

i want a lover who isn’t afraid of the dark, or the light. 

i want a lover with personal flair, and oddities. 

i want a lover who will tell me why they love me, and mean it, and show it. 

i want a joyful and playful lover. 

i want a lover who thinks and feels and cares deeply, and shares their thoughts and feelings and cares with me, and isn’t too afraid, or is and does it anyway.  

i want a lover who knows the work of dreaming and healing and learning and changing is never complete, just like this list.